{"id":1638,"date":"2026-06-28T08:32:10","date_gmt":"2026-06-28T08:32:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/parenting.catherineliew.com\/?p=1638"},"modified":"2026-06-28T08:32:10","modified_gmt":"2026-06-28T08:32:10","slug":"parenting-expert-the-real-reason-kids-struggle-say-this-to-help-them-dr-shefali","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/parenting.catherineliew.com\/?p=1638","title":{"rendered":"Parenting Expert: The Real Reason Kids Struggle (Say This To Help Them) | Dr. Shefali"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\ud83d\udd14 Subscribe for more great content: https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/lewishowes<br \/>\n\u25b6\ufe0f Recommended for you: https:\/\/youtu.be\/ETM3Z7DtOpI<\/p>\n<p>You can&#8217;t think your way into being a good parent. You heal your way there.<\/p>\n<p>Dr. Shefali Tsabary, the pioneer of the conscious parenting movement, has sat across from Lewis before, but this conversation lands at a moment that feels different. The world your kids are growing up in has changed, and so has what they need from you.<\/p>\n<p>She walks through what is really happening to a generation raised by algorithms, why boys and girls get hijacked in completely different ways, what waits for any boy left uninitiated, and the quiet trap set for every parent who swore they would do it differently than their own.<\/p>\n<p>There is a blueprint underneath all of it. Pillars for raising a daughter who keeps her voice and her boundaries. A plan for a son no one is showing how to become a man. And a harder question sitting beneath the whole thing: are you raising a human being, or a human doing?<\/p>\n<p>If you have young kids, parts of this will rattle you. It is also the map you didn&#8217;t know you were looking for.<\/p>\n<p>Pre-Order Her Upcoming Books, Raising Conscious Daughters &amp; Raising Conscious Sons: https:\/\/www.drshefali.com\/raisingconscious-daughters-sons\/<\/p>\n<p>Get Dr. Shefali&#8217;s Books:<br \/>\nThe Parenting Map: Step-by-Step Solutions to Consciously Create the Ultimate Parent-Child Relationship https:\/\/amzn.to\/42erveW<br \/>\nA Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free https:\/\/amzn.to\/4wbbQKT<\/p>\n<p>Listen to this episode on the go!<br \/>\n\ud83c\udf4e Apple Podcasts: https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/the-school-of-greatness\/id596047499<br \/>\n\ud83d\udfe2 Spotify: https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/07GQhOZboEZOE1ysnFLipT?si=a03d916bade54d4f<\/p>\n<p>For more info about this episode, go to https:\/\/lewishowes.com\/1945<\/p>\n<p>\ud83d\udcb0 get my NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING book &#8220;Make Money Easy&#8221; today!https:\/\/lewishowes.com\/moneyyou<br \/>\n\ud83d\udcd9 get my NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING book &#8220;The Greatness Mindset&#8221; today! https:\/\/lewishowes.com\/gmyo<br \/>\n\ud83d\udce4 sign up for my FREE newsletter https:\/\/lewishowes.com\/greatnessdelivered<\/p>\n<p>Follow Lewis!<br \/>\nInstagram: https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/lewishowes\/<br \/>\nTiktok: https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@lewis<br \/>\nFacebook: https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lewishowes\/<br \/>\nTwitter: https:\/\/twitter.com\/LewisHowes<br \/>\n\ud83d\udcbb Website: http:\/\/lewishowes.com\/<br \/>\n\ud83d\udcf2 For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960<\/p>\n<p>Get More Greatness!<br \/>\nGreatness Clips: https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@GreatnessClips<br \/>\nSpanish: https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@LewisHowesEspa\u00f1ol<br \/>\nPortuguese: https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@LewisHowesPortugues<br \/>\nLewis Howes Shorts: https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@lewishowesshorts<\/p>\n<p>00:00 Intro<br \/>\n02:08 The Trap of &#8220;Better&#8221; Parenting<br \/>\n08:04 Tech Hijacking Parental Attachment<br \/>\n11:41 The #1 Conscious Parenting Skill<br \/>\n15:46 Embracing Your Parenting Flaws<br \/>\n25:11 Raising Beings, Not &#8220;Doings&#8221;<br \/>\n30:01 The Epidemic of Child Anxiety<br \/>\n34:16 Raising Sons &amp; The Manosphere<br \/>\n44:26 Truth About &#8220;Sexual Liberation&#8221;<br \/>\n54:58 Ages 0-8: Prioritizing Play<br \/>\n01:03:52 Key Pillars for Raising Daughters<br \/>\n01:13:48 Why Kids Need to Struggle<br \/>\n01:23:03 Stopping &#8220;Good Girl&#8221; Syndrome<br \/>\n01:36:01 Raising Kids Today: Radical Advice<br \/>\n01:44:38 3 Ultimate Parenting Truths <\/p>\n<p>T-Mobile 5G Home Internet. 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