Being a parent is one of the most meaningful things you can do with your life, and one of the easiest things to worry about getting wrong. Most of us ultimately want the same things for our children: for them to grow up to be good people and have a good life. But how much influence do parents actually have over those outcomes?<\/p>\n
In this episode of Office Hours, I explore what the research can teach us about raising happy, well-adjusted kids, including how much of our children\u2019s personalities are inherited, where we as parents really can make a difference, and why what we model often matters more than what we say. <\/p>\n
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*Timestamps:*
\n(00:00) Intro
\n(05:04) What most parents want for their kids
\n(09:29) What the research has revealed about nature vs. nurture
\n(17:00) How parenting impacts personality
\n(29:12) Parenting principle #1: Even a hot mess can be a great parent
\n(32:52) Parenting principle #2: Be warm and loving
\n(34:29) Parenting principle #3: Be an actor
\n(38:42) Q&A: Overcoming bad habits learned from your parents
\n(40:50) Q&A: How to support a child with a toxic partner
\n(42:49) Q&A: Teaching children the discipline of happiness<\/p>\n
*Referenced:*
\n\u2022 The Meaning of Your Life: Finding Purpose in an Age of Emptiness: https:\/\/www.arthurbrooks.com\/the-meaning-of-your-life
\n\u2022 Meaning Membership: https:\/\/hub.arthurbrooks.com\/the-meaning-membership
\n\u2022 Arthur\u2019s newsletter: https:\/\/www.arthurbrooks.com\/newsletter
\n\u2022 The Happiness Scale: https:\/\/learn.arthurbrooks.com\/the-happiness-scale
\n\u2022 The Pursuit of Happiness with Arthur Brooks: https:\/\/www.thefp.com\/s\/the-pursuit-of-happiness-with-arthur
\n\u2022 Parenting in America Today: https:\/\/www.pewresearch.org\/social-trends\/2023\/01\/24\/parenting-in-america-today
\n\u2022 OCEAN: https:\/\/pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/1635039\/
\n\u2022 Heritability of the big five personality dimensions and their facets: a twin study: https:\/\/pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/8776880
\n\u2022 Longitudinal associations between parenting and child Big Five personality traits: https:\/\/psycnet.apa.org\/record\/2022-24205-001
\n\u2022 Passing on the Faith: The Father’s Role in Religious Transmission: https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/271945188_Passing_on_the_Faith_The_Father’s_Role_in_Religious_Transmission
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