This is episode 3 of a 4-part special series on mental health with Dr. Paul Conti, M.D., a psychiatrist who did his medical training at Stanford School of Medicine and residency at Harvard Medical School. He is the author of the book, \u201cTrauma: The Invisible Epidemic.\u201d Dr. Conti explains how to find, develop and strengthen healthy relationships \u2014 including romantic relationships, work and colleague relationships, and friendships. He explains a roadmap of the conscious and unconscious mind that can allow anyone to navigate conflicts better and set healthy boundaries in relationships. We also discuss common features of unhealthy relationships and clinically supported tools for dealing with relationship insecurity, excessive anxiety, past traumas, manipulation and abuse. Dr. Conti explains how, in healthy relationships, there emerges a dynamic of the mutually generative \u201cus\u201d and how to continually improve that dynamic. The next episode in this special series explores true self-care, which can be cultivated through a process of building self-awareness along with other important practices.<\/p>\n
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\nGuest Series | Dr. Paul Conti: How to Understand & Assess Your Mental Health (Episode 1): https:\/\/hubermanlab.com\/guest-series-dr-paul-conti-how-to-understand-and-assess-your-mental-health
\nGuest Series | Dr. Paul Conti: How to Improve Your Mental Health (Episode 2): https:\/\/hubermanlab.com\/guest-series-dr-paul-conti-how-to-improve-your-mental-health
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\nPillars of Mental Health: https:\/\/hubermanlab.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/Pillars-of-Mental-Health.pdf<\/p>\n
Timestamps
\n00:00:00 Build Healthy Relationships
\n00:02:04 Sponsors: BetterHelp & Waking Up
\n00:05:01 Healthiest Self in Relationships
\n00:10:51 Structure & Function of Self
\n00:15:44 Relationships, Levels of Emergence
\n00:22:48 Generative Drive in Relationships
\n00:35:00 Sponsor: AG1
\n00:36:26 Generative Drive, Aggressive Drive, Pleasure Drive
\n00:45:16 Romantic Relationships & Matched Generative Drives, Trauma Bonds
\n00:53:05 Generative Drive Expression, Libido, Giving & Taking
\n01:04:29 Sponsor: Eight Sleep
\n01:05:50 Generative Drive in Partnerships
\n01:11:16 Libido, Avoidance & Working through Barriers
\n01:18:02 Repeating Bad Relationship Patterns, Repetition Compulsion
\n01:29:23 Narcissism, Dependence, Attachment Insecurity
\n01:34:10 Abusive Relationships, Demoralization
\n01:39:37 Oppressors, Darkness, Hope & Change
\n01:48:08 Work Relationships, Oppression & Accountability
\n01:53:53 Jealousy vs. Envy, Narcissism
\n01:59:13 Power Dynamics in Relationships
\n02:05:54 Giving vs. Taking in Relationships
\n02:09:39 Transactions & Relationships; Family & Generative Drive; Flexibility
\n02:19:47 Relationships & Kindergarten
\n02:23:04 Anxiety in Relationships, Communication
\n02:31:32 The \u201cMagic Bridge of the Us\u201d
\n02:37:09 Mentalization, Getting into Another\u2019s Mindset; Navigating Conflict
\n02:46:51 Healthy Boundaries
\n02:52:08 Self-Awareness, Mentalization
\n02:55:28 \u201cBroken Compass\u201d & Self Inquiry, \u201cMap\u201d Analogy
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